My friend directed me to a blog recently where the blogger discussed being "One and Done"
If you don't know what that means, it means, having an only child.
I find it funny that the moment you get married people start asking you when you are having kids.
As if marriage = kids.
I find it even more humorous that once you have your first kid people then start asking where #2 is and so on.
When I tell people we are only having one kid I get a lot of mixed reactions and almost all of them are negative.
Here are just a few:
"Only kids are weird"
I know plenty of only children who are NOT weird, here are a few famous folks who are only children: Charles Lindbergh, Betty White, Alicia Keys, Brooke Shields, Charlize Theron, Chelsea Clinton, Condoleeza Rice, Oprah Winfrey, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Karem Abdul-Jabbar, LeAnn Rimes, Laura Bush, Nancy Reagan, Walter Cronkite...Just to name a few. Full list here.
"Don't you want your son to have a built in friend"
I don't think reproducing just to have a built in friend for my child is an amazing reason to have #2, at all. I know plenty of siblings who despise each other and are NOT good friends. Not saying that kids don't grow up being friends, but just because you have more than one kid doesn't automatically mean they will like each other or be BFFs.
"Davis wants a baby brother or sister"
Last time I checked Davis just wanted to play Angry Birds Space.
"He is going to be a spoiled brat"
I know a lot of kids who are spoiled brats and have multiple siblings. Being a spoiled brat has nothing to do with being an only child.
My husband and I have many, many reasons for not jumping to have a second child. Here are just a few, starting with the most important:
1. Davis DID NOT sleep until he was over 2 years old. And I don't mean he just woke up for a few minutes here and there. I mean, full on, up all night from 11 p.m. until 7 a.m. He just didn't sleep, ever. Can you imagine going over 2 years with almost no sleep? For those of you think think, oh, she is being a whiner, then you can suck it. This is no joke, my son didn't sleep at all. I felt like I lived in the twilight zone for over 2 years. It was very difficult and I'd never wish it on anyone. I don't think I could live that again.
2. We'd like to provide Davis with opportunities we didn't have. My husband grew up very poor and he hated strugging to have things like food, clothes, etc... He doesn't want that for Davis. Not that we struggle at all, but we'd like to do some things for Davis that we probably couldn't do if we had 2 kids. For example, we'd like to possibly send Davis to a private school and we are saving so we can have enough money to pay for his college education. If we had more than one kid those things would be more difficult.
3. My husband was diagnosed with MS, that is self explanitory.
4. I personally am enjoying life with one child. Call it selfish, but we are in a good place, things are easy and I'm having fun. I am at a point now where I see my friends with their babies and think, they are cute but there is no way. That is how I know I'm done.
I often wonder when people will stop asking me when we are having another child. When Davis is 20 perhaps?