I am finally admitting Davis is going to be an only child. This has not been an easy decision. I will leave it at just that.
There is no question that bothers me more than the one you get asked after you get married, everone seems to think marriage automatically equals reproduction. Newly marrieds and even marrieds who have been married a long time yet childless probably know what I'm talking about. It seems like the second you say "I Do" everyone thinks it is their business to know when your having a baby. I'm sure they mean no harm, but it is just one of those things that is like nails on a chalkboard to me. When you finally do have that baby it seems like within minutes of him or her making their appearence to the outside world everyone is asking when baby #2 is arriving. Hello, I haven't even changed my first diaper yet and your already asking me about baby #2. Simmer down folk, simmer down. My own mother even has this speech she always gives me about only children. I love her more than anything and while it doesn't really hurt my feelings, it bugs me, I feel like people have a hard time accepting the fact we want one child. I feel like I've made this decision with my husband only to have people say may ridiculous statements regarding only children. Here are a few of the typical responses, only children are weird, only children are spoiled, only children are lonely and my favorite of all time, only children are retarded. Yes, I actually had one unique person tell me that. What an asshole.
I was so pleased to receive our copy of Time magazine in the mail yesterday, the cover story was this: "The Only Child: Debunking the Myths"
So right now Jeff and I are only planning on one child, it is what we can afford, it is what we can handle, it is what we want. Will there be another baby in the future?? maybe, just maybe, but not anytime soon.